How to be a Classy Lady in 7 Steps
Hold Yourself As A Classy, High Value Woman.
To market yourself as a classy lady, there are two aspects to this.
Part A: The internal: what you believe and feel about who you are. To be classy from the inside out, you need to know and believe with your soul that you are already enough. It’s your job to market what you have, and to market yourself, you have to believe you are ‘It’. Classy women show that they are classy through who they are and what they do, not what they say about who they are and what they do.
Part B: Posture: holding your physical body as a classy woman would. Posture is very important for being classy.
If you have poor posture, that will make you go unnoticed to the right people and slip under the radar of other classy, high value people, because it will say a lot about your physical and mental health without you even realising it.
Develop Rituals That Support A High Self-Worth.
I’m talking about emotional resources here. Some people like to call it emotional fitness: a woman who can hold her own yet give her heart in the face of grave fears.
Emotional resourcefulness is your ability (or your desire) to breathe through, and handle anything that faces you with love and vulnerability.
So – develop rituals: whether that be a daily practice of gratitude, A daily resolve to push a little further on your spiritual path with your spouse or your children, a daily practice of viewing life as a playground rather than a battleground and looking for the evidence to support that belief or even a daily ritual of giving understanding and love rather than judgments.
A Classy Woman Is A Woman Who Has Value To Give
A high quality, highly esteemed classy woman is a woman of value and a woman of value is one who values the happiness of others, and who is considerate.
People will rarely perceive you as high class unless you have real value to offer and add to their lives.
Think of how women show up low value – if you or I were to show up low class or low value, we’d almost always act in a particularly recognisable way.
Usually, this kind of woman is lacking self esteem and feels so insignificant in this world, that she becomes obsessively significance-driven and she is habitually unable to listen, to care for or to help others.
Focus On Taking Responsibility, Over Blaming. Feel Instead Of Blaming
If you notice yourself wanting to blame, criticise or be hateful…that’s a good reminder to feel.
Your feelings may not even be related to the other person! Sit down, speak out loud about what hurts you, what is making you sad, and what is making you angry.
Go deep – say to yourself or to someone that you trust how you really feel. Don’t pretend. Be strong and focus on what you can control, what you can change and what you can do going forward to be better.
Let Love Flow Through You.
Let love flow through you. Let love flow through your hands, your words, your body, and your actions.
Love softens you and makes your every movement, every word, classy.
It makes your energy neither too arrogant nor too humble.
Love permeates your actions as intangible value within every important relationship you have.
The way we hold ourselves can encourage stress, fear or relaxation and love in others. But the practice of being classy is really the practice of accepting each moment, rather than always fighting hard against what is.
Cultivate Authenticity.
Contrary to popular belief, being classy and elegant isn’t about “self-control” or holding things in.
It’s not about being a stoic.
Try to be authentic. You could have just lost a dear family member, your dog could have gotten run over, you could have had a big issue with your best friend, you could be down about losing your job, or just life’s problems, and that is all fine – as long as you are authentic.
You can be grieving, or experiencing emotional suffering, and still be classy. All you have to do is acknowledge the pain, perhaps share your feelings with friends, family and your lover, but still hold yourself with grace and poise.
Care Beyond What Is Comfortable.
Caring takes extra energy; people who care are generally very passionate people. Not impulsive, but passionate.
Sometimes people confuse impulse for passion – it is just impulsive, not passionate.
Care about life; about the way your words touch someone.
Care about the way you welcome people into your home – care about how warm and welcome they feel in your home.
Care about how you carry yourself, how you dress when you leave the house and what you want the world to see you as.
A Classy, Traditional Environment Calls For You To Act According To Unspoken Etiquette
To Be Classy, You Should Act According To The Customary Code
To be classy, you need to feel for the situation at hand. Know what environment you are entering.
Don’t turn up to a classy function with too many body parts popping out of your clothes.
You might feel like wearing something very sexy – but as well as considering what you feel like wearing – you have a responsibility to feel for what is appropriate for the event you are attending.